Discovering and reclaiming the light within
My life’s passion is to help people live out their fullest potential by discovering and reclaiming the light within; transforming our painful experiences to see and accept that we are beautiful just the way we are; learning how to let our natural radiance shine bright for all the world to see.
As children, we have very little control over our environment and the things that happen to us. Many of us go through painful, traumatic events, such as divorce, abuse, neglect, teasing, bullying and social rejection. Where we were once innocent, joyous, curious about the world around us, shining bright, we start to cower back, assuming that we must be stupid, incapable and undeserving, because why else would these bad things happen to us? We form deep, subconscious core self-limiting beliefs about ourselves and the world around us, such as “I’m bad/unlovable,” “I’m not enough,” “I’ll never be happy,” or “People who love me always hurt me or leave me.” Our inner light gradually becomes eclipsed by darkness and pain.
Most people develop strategies for avoiding this pain, usually through some kind of escape. Some of us keep ourselves totally focused on other people or activities so we don’t have to deal with our feelings. Others may lash out or act out in unhealthy ways, or drop out of society entirely. We may turn to food, sex, drugs or alcohol for comfort. In the beginning, these coping skills usually work for us. They do provide some relief and a way of numbing our suffering. The problem is that they keep us from acknowledging and healing the real pain inside. The behaviors become habitual, and we go on autopilot, reacting to life in repetitive, unconscious ways. Over time, these coping skills lose their effectiveness. They start to create problems in our lives, such as conflict in our relationships, work or financial struggles, health problems, depression, confusion and overwhelm. We may find ourselves stuck in a vicious cycle of suffering.
I know. I’ve been there (see the About Me page to find out more). And I’m happy to say, there is a way out. It takes awareness of what underlying thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and experiences have gotten us to this place. By shining a light into the darkness, we begin to find our way out. We see where we need to change our thoughts and expectations about ourselves and others. We heal those old hurts and shame, and let our inner child know that we are safe, that we are worthy, that we are loved. If we never got those messages growing up, we learn and start embracing them now. And as we start to feel better about ourselves, it has a ripple effect on those around us, healing our relationships with others and the world at large.
As your therapist, I bring the flashlight and the toolbag and together we uncover who you really are underneath all the hurt, fear and sadness. I enable you see that where you were perhaps once a victim and didn’t have control, you now have choices. I help you empower yourself to overcome your obstacles and manifest the life you’ve only dreamed of. Love. Joy. Bliss. Fulfillment. Peace. Enjoying all the pleasures that life has to offer. They are all possible, and all within reach.
Please read on to learn more about me….